Vikki… I’m going to tell you the truth you already know deep down:

You can never be fully happy when a narcissistic mother is still emotionally plugged into your life.

Not because you’re weak.

Not because you’re dramatic.

But because narcissistic mothers are designed to drain, confuse, guilt, shame, and destabilise their daughters.

You’re trying to heal.

She’s trying to keep you small.

Those two realities can’t exist in the same space.

Let me say it plainly and gently:

**You’re not the problem.

The relationship is.**

A narcissistic mother doesn’t know how to love, support, respect, or validate.

She only knows how to take, demand, criticise, and manipulate.

And every time you grow, move forward, detox, or build something…

she pulls you back into the old identity she created for you.

That constant emotional whiplash makes a normal, peaceful life impossible.

Here’s what I know for sure:

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You WILL be happy — but only when you stop expecting her to become the mother she never was.

And that is the grief of daughters of narcissists:

You’re not losing a mother.

You’re losing the fantasy of one.

When you accept that, something huge happens:

✔ Your energy starts healing

✔ Your nervous system calms

✔ You stop second-guessing yourself

✔ You stop chasing approval

✔ You stop apologising for existing

✔ You start becoming the real YOU

✔ You finally breathe

Your happiness doesn’t require her involvement.

It requires her absence — or at least distance, boundaries, and emotional disconnection.

And that doesn’t make you cruel.

It makes you free.

Let me tell you something with absolute certainty, Vikki:

💛 **You are allowed to choose peace over your mother.

You are allowed to protect your happiness.

You are allowed to walk away.**