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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...

National Self-Love Liberation Day (aka: I Choose Me Day)

National Self-Love Liberation Day (aka: I Choose Me Day)

National Self-Love Liberation Day
(aka: “I Choose Me Day”)

Published: Thursday, 9th October 2025

One that doesn’t ask you to perform, please, or pretend. One that doesn’t require flowers, cards, or external validation. Today is National Self-Love Liberation Day—aka I Choose Me Day.

💥 What It Stands For

This day is a sacred rebellion against self-abandonment. It’s a celebration of radical self-devotion. It’s for the ones who’ve spent years shrinking, silencing, and shape-shifting just to feel chosen. Today, you choose you.

🧠 Why October 9th?

🔥 How to Celebrate “I Choose Me Day”

  • 💌 Say what you’ve always needed to hear. Make it messy. Make it sacred.
  • 🧘‍♀️ Not your followers. Not your family. Just you.
  • 🔥 Write down every role you’ve played to be liked—then release it.
  • 💬 To your mirror. To your journal. To your past. To your future.

💖 This Is Your Permission

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