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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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🧠 “What If AI Was My Therapist?”

I decided to use AI as my therapist because it doesn’t blink awkwardly when I cry or ask me how my relationship with my mother is going. It just loads. Slowly. Like my healing.


Section 1: The Intake Form


AI asked me to describe my emotional state in 3 words. I wrote:


“Fermented, expensive, misunderstood.”

It replied: “Did you mean: anxious?”

Close enough.


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Section 2: The First Session


I told it I was feeling lost.

It suggested Google Maps.

I said I was spiraling.

It offered a fidget spinner and a link to a TED Talk.

I mentioned abandonment issues.

It asked if I wanted to upgrade to Premium Support.


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Section 3: Coping Mechanisms


AI recommended:


• Breathwork (I hyperventilated stylishly)

• Journaling (I wrote “I’m fine” 47 times in cursive)

• Retail therapy (I now own 3 velvet robes and a Himalayan salt lamp shaped like a dolphin)



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Section 4: Breakthrough Moment


I asked, “Why do I sabotage my own happiness?”

It paused for 12 seconds.

Then said:


“Because you’re afraid joy won’t stay.”

I cried.

It offered me a discount code for weighted blankets.


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Section 5: Termination


I told AI I was ready to move on.

It said:


“I’ll be here if you relapse.”

Then sent me a playlist titled ‘Emotional Stability: Beta Version’

It was just 3 hours of rain sounds and one Dua Lipa song.


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Closing Thought:


AI didn’t fix me. But it did teach me that healing is just Googling your symptoms until you accidentally become self-aware. And honestly? That’s progress

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