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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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Quit what you hate

 Quitting things you hate can be a significant step towards a happier life. Here are some steps to consider:

  1. Identify: Clearly identify what it is you hate and why.
  2. Evaluate: Consider the impact of these things on your life and what you might gain by quitting them.
  3. Plan: Make a plan for how you can quit these things. This might involve setting goals, creating timelines, and considering any support you might need.
  4. Act: Take the necessary steps to quit, whether it’s a job, a habit, or anything else.
  5. Replace: Find positive activities or commitments to fill the void left by what you’ve quit.

Remember, it’s important to ensure that quitting something won’t cause more harm than good and to seek support from friends, family, or professionals if needed.

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