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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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How To Stop Procrastinating

If you want to stop procrastinating you need to stop all Short term rewards especially if your working from home and working on your own. 

Unfortunately covid has made procrastinating the new pandemic!!!

First set your work hours or task that needs doing and eliminate all Short-term rewards, here are a few examples.

  1. No Smoking
  2. No drinking Copious amounts of coffee and tea
  3. No snacking on junk food
  4. No mobile phone except for work related calls/texts/emails 
  5. No The negative people and time wasters
If you Want a cup of tea set a time you can have one or two during your task hours.

Now you need to encourage long-term rewards such as
  1. Yes to exercise
  2. Yes to work
  3. Yes, to becoming an entrepreneur
  4. Yes to personal goals
  5. Yes to happy relationships. 
  6. Yes to healthy meals

So have you done your run before work?
Have you started on a large project?
When you finish that project are you gonna start something for yourself?
Have you reached personal goal for today?
Have you met or called a friend and had a laugh?
Have you cooked a healthy meal

These lists are highly adaptable and can be personalised to you. 

This list on how to stop procrastination is extremely helpful if you have bad habits that you want to get rid of.


Right I’m gonna Turn some music on and get back to work…

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