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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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How to be kind to yourself

 Being kind to yourself is extremely important in a world of hate.

Give yourself time to reflect on your values, and if people don’t like them, they’re just Not your type of people

Clean the house, put flowers in each room and make your environment kind to your sanity

Eat healthy meals, surround yourself with a good people and best of all have a laugh

Maybe take a day off work and have a ME day

If People say hurtful things, just walk away you’re better than that.

Life is all about kindness and not hate, and when I say kindness, I don’t mean generosity Where you don’t get reciprocated.

Kindness is a gesture, not giving things away that won’t be given back.

Good people don’t ask for your money or to borrow stuff very often, but bad people want everything you’ve got and the word you need to learn is no. 


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