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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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How To Love Yourself Again

 Sit by yourself and write down what you want your life to be like

For example: I want to be happy, healthy, loving, caring trustworthy,  make other people happy, give amazing value to others, up my skills, always be positive and basically be a happy me I used to be.

Diet: lean proteins, salads, omega 3 & nourishing water.

Exercise: get to my ideal weight and build a strong body.

Friends: gain friends that lift you up and support you.

Work: enjoy work and be happy you are  learning and growing every day, Learn a new skill every day off the professionals in the world.

Sleep: get eight hours, sleep a night.

Play: dance whilst cooking, make food exciting and fun. Write funny post it notes to uplift people.

You are amazing and you know it. I love you even though I don’t know you. 

B. U…

Be happy xxx

Love Vikki  😘

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