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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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Why have I got anxiety

 Anxiety happens when you are not in full control of your life, or at least it feels like it. 

Unfinished tasks that people hassle you about will cause anxiety because they don’t think you have full control, but you do. 

Write down a list of items you need to do in order of urgency and get them done with the most urgent first. 

If anyone hassles you about the tasks say “ I am in full control, don’t worry about my tasks, worry about your own tasks”

Anxiety is highly common when you work for other people that don’t value you so maybe it’s worth looking around for a boss or clients that really appreciate your value and ditch the bad ones. 

Anxiety and stress is the worst silent killer in the world so if someone doesn’t value you, move on and work with people that do. 

Try it, it might even feel good


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