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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...

how to self discipline yourself

  1. Know what’s right and wrong
  2. Only accept healthy behaviours 
  3.  Analyse  people with bad habits and see how it’s affecting their life in negative ways
  4. Analyse people when they drink alcohol and see how it makes them look stupid
  5. Analyse Fat people and realise how they got into their situation
  6. Analyse how bad habits make you miserable
  7. Be a people watcher and copy the people you admire 
  8. Make people admire you
  9. Be the better person 
  10. Enjoy life and have fun 

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