About Me

I am not here because I have it all figured out. I am here because I have been through a lot of it — and if that helps you in any way, that is exactly why I am writing.

All I really want, at the end of the day, is sanity. A calm home. A life that makes sense. Relationships that do not cost me everything. If you are reading this, there is a good chance you want exactly the same things. And there is a good chance you have had some of the same obstacles in the way.

The Personal Side

What I bring to this

Personal experience of some of the hardest things this blog writes about — which you will find in the writing itself

Single mother who has rebuilt from scratch and kept going

Author of two published books

Years of researching psychology, trauma, and narcissistic abuse — not from a clinical distance, but as someone who needed to understand it to survive it

I have been through a rough road. I will not go into the details here — the writing does that far better than any biography could. What I will say is that I know what it feels like to not have language for your own experience. To sense that something is wrong but not be able to name it. To search for answers and find nothing that actually helps.

Working things out — slowly, imperfectly, over a long time — is what eventually led to this blog. I am not a qualified therapist. What I have is personal experience I would not have chosen, a genuine commitment to understanding it properly, and a desire to write about it in a way that is actually useful to someone in the middle of it.

I have not got all of this figured out either. I am still working on some of it. But I am here. I got through it. And that is worth something.

"I did not start this blog because I had all the answers. I started it because I had been through a lot of the questions — and I could not find the plain-English answers I actually needed anywhere online."

Why This Blog Exists

How To Feel F*cking Amazing exists because psychology, mental health, personal finance, and narcissistic abuse recovery should not require a doctorate to understand. The research is out there. The evidence is there. But it is buried in clinical language, behind paywalls, or reduced to generic tips that do not help anyone who is actually in the middle of something difficult.

Everything on this site is written in plain English, grounded in real research, and shaped by lived experience — mine, and the experience of every person I have spoken to, worked with, or simply recognised myself in over the years. There are no paid recommendations here, no upsells, no email list you have to join before you get the actual answer. Just honest, useful writing on things that genuinely matter.

My Books

How to Build Wealth on a Low Income — practical, no-nonsense financial guidance for people who have been told that wealth is not for them.

Sober Not Sorry — an honest account of sobriety and what life actually looks like on the other side of it.

If you have found this blog because you are going through something difficult right now — a painful relationship, a difficult family dynamic, financial stress, or just the general exhaustion of trying to hold everything together alone — I want you to know that I understand more than most people would.

I have not got a badge for it. What I have is the experience, the years of research, and the genuine desire to help if I can. The writing is the proof of that.

If something I have written has helped you — even a little — that is exactly why I am here.

Vikki