When He Tries to Smash Your Computer So You Can’t Work

If someone attempts to damage your computer, laptop, or work equipment during an argument, pause.

This is not “anger.” This is not “passion.” This is control.

Let’s call it what it is:

• Financial sabotage.
• Intimidation.
• Coercive control.
• An attempt to destabilize your independence.

Your ability to work equals your ability to earn, choose, and leave if necessary.

When someone targets that, they are targeting your freedom.

Healthy conflict does NOT look like:

• Threatening your livelihood.
• Destroying property.
• Blocking your independence.
• Using fear to gain leverage.

Healthy adults argue with words. Unstable ones argue with destruction.

What strength looks like here:

• Protecting your income streams.
• Backing up your data.
• Documenting destructive behavior.
• Creating an exit strategy if needed.
• Refusing to normalize intimidation.

Love does not attack your survival. Partnership does not sabotage your career. Respect does not try to make you smaller.

If someone tries to smash the tool that feeds you, that’s not a red flag.

That’s the exit sign.

Labels: coercive control, financial abuse, boundaries, independence, self protection, emotional safety, relationships