How I Interview Men (and Why Most Fail)

Dating after trauma or long-term abuse isn’t just about chemistry or Instagram-worthy selfies. It’s about real life skills. And trust me, the basics are rare.

Here’s how I interview men — yes, seriously:

1. Can they text back in the same hour?

Consistency matters. If he can’t reply promptly, he’s likely inconsistent in life, emotions, or effort. Respect your time — your attention is valuable.

2. Do they help with shopping?

Life isn’t glamorous. Can he carry groceries without complaining? Help plan meals? Being useful shows responsibility and partnership.

3. Can they cook?

Even a basic dish counts. Cooking is self-sufficiency, thoughtfulness, and effort — all signs of maturity.

4. Do they help pay the bills?

Money is power. Contribution shows respect, equality, and accountability. No excuses — this is basic adulthood.

5. Are they dependable with life’s “small” things?

Laundry, taking out the trash, showing up when promised — all indicators of reliability. If they fail here, bigger responsibilities will fail too.

The brutal truth:

• Most men fail at these basic life skills. Shocking, right? But it’s better to know early than waste years.
• Red flags are obvious when you set **non-negotiable standards**.
• Confidence is knowing your worth and refusing to settle for less than respectful partnership.

Action Steps:

1. Write your non-negotiables — not preferences, but essentials for partnership.
2. Test the basics in real-life situations — not hypotheticals.
3. Don’t rationalize failure — if he can’t do the basics, he’s not your person.
4. Celebrate the men who do — they’re rare, valuable, and worthy of respect.

Dating is a skill. Life partnership is a skill. Don’t settle for someone who fails at basic adulthood — chemistry fades, but accountability lasts. Interview like a boss. Protect your energy. Stay unshakable.

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