The Version of You They Broke Is Gone — The Version of You They Built Is Coming
🔥 The Version of You They Broke Is Gone — The Version of You They Built Is Coming
You’re not broken. You’re between versions.
This is for anyone who has ever been betrayed, dismissed, abused, abandoned, overlooked, or taken for granted — and is wondering who the hell they are now.
There is a version of you that doesn’t exist anymore.
The version of you that:
- said “it’s fine” when it really, really wasn’t
- shrunk yourself to keep other people comfortable
- ignored the knot in your stomach to avoid conflict
- said yes when your whole body screamed no
- thought love meant over-giving and under-receiving
- believed if you just tried harder, they’d finally treat you right
That version of you?
Gone.
Not because you failed. But because that version of you couldn’t survive what you went through.
💀 Phase One: The Death of the Old You
Nobody talks about this part.
They talk about:
- the breakup
- the narcissist
- the trauma
- the betrayal
- the argument
But they don’t talk about the fact that:
a whole version of you quietly died in the process.
The version of you that:
- trusted too quickly
- forgave without evidence of change
- took responsibility for everyone’s feelings
- believed their words over their patterns
- thought your role was to fix, heal, save or prove yourself
That self simply couldn’t keep existing in the same way.
So she did what souls do when they’ve had enough:
She let herself break.
Not because you’re weak. Because that version of you had reached her limit.
🌫️ Phase Two: The Void No One Warns You About
After the breaking comes the void.
This is the part nobody prepares you for:
- you don’t feel like “you” anymore
- you don’t recognise your reflection
- you’re not who you were, but not yet who you’re becoming
- old habits don’t fit, new ones aren’t built yet
- you feel numb, raw, emotional, detached — sometimes all in one day
You might catch yourself thinking:
- “I don’t know who I am without them.”
- “I don’t know who I am without this role.”
- “I don’t know who I am without constantly worrying.”
- “I don’t know how to exist without surviving something.”
It’s not that you’ve lost yourself.
You’ve lost the costume you were forced to wear.
In the void:
- your nervous system is recalibrating
- your brain is rewiring new pathways
- your body is learning what safety feels like
- your heart is grieving versions of you that tried their best
It feels like nothing is happening. But this is where the quiet, hidden construction work begins.
🔥 Phase Three: The Version of You They Accidentally Built
Here’s the plot twist:
They didn’t just break you. They accidentally built someone they can’t get near anymore.
Every lie sharpened your intuition. Every betrayal upgraded your boundaries. Every dismissal taught you to trust your own reality. Every time they underestimated you, you collected evidence that you are stronger than you knew.
The version of you that’s arriving now:
- doesn’t beg to be chosen
- doesn’t explain her worth
- feels the red flags in her body the first time
- will block in peace instead of arguing for hours
- won’t sacrifice her sanity for someone else’s comfort
- knows that love doesn’t require self-erosion
The version of you they built by trying to destroy you:
- is less naive but more compassionate
- is softer with herself and harder to access
- is kinder, but with guardrails
- is open-hearted, but no longer open-season
They broke the you that tolerated them. They built the you that never will again.
🧬 You Didn’t Become Cold — You Became Aware
People might say:
- “You’ve changed.”
- “You’re not as ‘nice’ as you used to be.”
- “You’ve got walls up now.”
But here’s what really happened:
- you stopped calling self-abandonment “kindness”
- you stopped accepting chaos as “passion”
- you stopped entertaining bare minimum as “love”
- you stopped letting people audition for the role of your destroyer
You didn’t become hard. You became clear.
You didn’t become bitter. You became discerning.
You didn’t become closed off. You became selective.
This is what healing actually looks like in real life. Not perfect. Not linear. Not pretty. But real.
🛠️ If You’re Still in the Void, Read This Twice
If you’re reading this and thinking:
- “I’m not that new version yet.”
- “I still feel lost and tired.”
- “I don’t feel powerful, I feel empty.”
That doesn’t mean you’ve failed.
It means you’re mid-upgrade.
Small, quiet things help more than they look like they do:
- drinking water and eating something decent
- taking a shower and changing your bedding
- opening the curtains and letting in light
- writing down your feelings instead of swallowing them
- talking to a trusted person, support group or professional if you can
- reminding yourself: “I am allowed to rest while I rebuild.”
You don’t have to “fix your whole life” today. You just have to not give up on the you who is trying to emerge.
🌱 The Future You Your Past Self Needed
Think about the version of you who:
- cried in secret so no one would worry
- stayed in rooms where love only came with conditions
- apologised just to keep the peace
- felt invisible in families, relationships, friendships
- thought being chosen by them meant you were worthy
She didn’t deserve what happened. She did her best with what she knew.
The version of you that’s coming now?
She is the one your past self needed.
The one who:
- would have walked you out of those rooms
- would have told you “this is not love”
- would have sat with you while you cried
- would have reminded you you’re not too much, you’re too generous for small spaces
That’s who you’re becoming.
🌈 The Line You Came Here For
If you need one sentence to hold onto, let it be this:
The version of you they broke is gone — the version of you they built is coming.
You are not behind. You are not ruined. You are not starting from zero.
You’re starting from wisdom. From boundaries. From self-respect. From “never again.”
The next chapter of your life isn’t about proving your worth to them. It’s about finally living in a way that feels worthy to you.
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