How a CIA Agent Would Detect If Your Partner Is Cheating (According to Andrew Bustamante Tactics)

When you’re trained to spot lies for a living, romantic betrayal isn’t a mystery.

It’s a pattern. A psychological glitch. A slip in routine that reveals everything.

Andrew Bustamante — former CIA covert intelligence officer — spent years detecting deception in the field.

And let’s just say: if your partner’s cheating?

He’d spot it before they even made the excuse.

This post breaks down how a CIA mind would detect infidelity — using observation, psychology, and strategic silence.

Not drama. Not guessing.

Intel.

🕶️ Rule #1: Stop Confronting. Start Collecting Intel.

The first thing a CIA agent does when they suspect betrayal?

They don’t accuse. They observe.

Emotion gives the game away. Strategy gets results.

“The second you start yelling, you’ve lost control of the room.”

– Probably Andrew Bustamante

So what do you do?

You build a pattern map. Quietly. Patiently. Like a pro.

📍 1. Detect Shifts in Routine

Cheaters are creatures of habit… until they’re not.

🔍 CIA-Level Questions to Ask Yourself:

• Are they suddenly unavailable at times they used to be present?
• Have their “gym sessions” or “work meetings” become suspiciously vague?
• Are they guarding their phone like it’s classified intel?

CIA Tip:

In intelligence work, changes in routine = a threat indicator.

Look for inconsistencies in behaviour, not wild emotional swings.

💬 2. Analyse Language Shifts

Liars change how they speak.

🚩 Key Signs:

• Overexplaining small details
• Avoiding direct answers (“Why do you always think the worst of me?”)
• Using distancing language: “That woman from work” instead of “Jess”

CIA Tip:

Listen for shifts in tone, rhythm, and specificity.

Guilt makes people clumsy with their words.

🔐 3. Phone Behaviour Is a Goldmine

Spies don’t need access to your files to know something’s off.

They watch your body language around tech.

Red Flags:

• Screen always facing down
• Panic when you’re near their device
• Sudden new passwords or wiped histories
• Messaging apps that weren’t there before

CIA Tip:

You don’t need to read messages. Just study how the device is being guarded.

🧠 4. Trust Your Gut — But Validate It with Data

In the CIA, intuition is trained.

It’s not magic. It’s subconscious pattern recognition.

Action:

Start a simple log. Not to obsess — to stay objective.

Note:

• Date/time of odd behaviour
• Excuses given
• Inconsistencies that follow

CIA Tip:

Patterns beat hunches.

Three weird excuses = coincidence.

Ten = probable deception.

🧭 5. The Final Test: Drop a Strategic Truth Bomb

Here’s where you flip the field.

“Hey, I noticed something’s off lately. If there’s anything going on —

I’m ready to hear the truth.”

Then. You wait.

A guilty person will:

• Deflect
• Get defensive
• Gaslight (“You’re paranoid.”)

A truthful person will:

• Stay calm
• Ask questions
• Want to repair the trust

CIA Tip:

This isn’t confrontation. It’s an intel prompt.

You’re giving them rope. What they do with it reveals everything.