Taking Back Control: The Vikki Way—Tea, Truth, and Zero Tolerance for Chaos

Let’s be real: life doesn’t come with a pause button, and most of us are just trying to hold it together without losing our minds or snapping at the delivery driver. So how do you actually take back control of your life when it feels like everything’s gone sideways?

I’ve taken some powerful lessons from Tony Robbins (because say what you like, the man knows a thing or two about getting unstuck), and given them a Vikki-style remix: honest, a little cheeky, and fully doable even on three hours of sleep and a soggy tea bag.

Here’s how to take back control—and actually keep it.

1. Interrupt the Pattern

Tony calls it a “pattern interrupt.” I call it: stop the chaos before it eats you alive.

If your brain’s spinning out—overthinking, over-worrying, over-Googling—do something that flips the script. I don’t care if it’s a cold splash of water, a brisk walk, or blasting ‘90s power ballads while air-drumming with a wooden spoon. The point is to snap out of autopilot.

“This moment isn’t running me—I’m watching it like a Netflix drama, and I hold the remote.”

2. Reclaim Your State

Your emotional state controls your decisions. And no, I don’t mean “just think positive” (gag). I mean: shift your body, your focus, and your words.

• Shoulders back. Chin up. You are not a victim of your to-do list.
• Ask yourself: “What’s mine to control right now?” The rest? Not your job.
• Change your language. Swap “I’m stuck” for “I’m strategising.” You’re not failing. You’re adjusting.

3. Get Brutally Clear on What You Want

Tony says “clarity is power.” And it is. But clarity also saves you from wasting time people-pleasing or doom-scrolling.

Write it down. “I want to earn more and work less.” “I want peace, not chaos.” “I want to be surrounded by people who don’t drain the life out of me.”

Stick it on your fridge. Make it your decision filter. If it doesn’t align, it’s a no.

4. Raise Your Standards

Here’s where the truth hurts a little: you get what you tolerate.

You don’t need to go full diva, but you do need to stop accepting crumbs when you deserve the whole cake. Tony calls this an identity shift—I call it finally acting like you matter.

“People don’t walk all over boundaries I’ve already cemented.”

So cement them. Reinforce them. Don’t apologise for having standards.

5. Make Momentum Inevitable

Massive action doesn’t have to mean massive stress. It means doing one non-negotiable thing every day that moves your life forward.

Write one blog post. Pitch one idea. Share one book. Declutter one drawer. You don’t need to move mountains—just push a pebble consistently and the mountain eventually moves itself.

Final Thought:

Taking back control isn’t about perfection. It’s about power—the quiet kind that builds day by day. The kind that says, “I don’t scream into pillows anymore. I plan. I protect my peace. I show up.”

Now, go make your tea, take a breath, and get one needle-moving thing done today.

You’ve got this. And if not—just hit the pattern interrupt and try again tomorrow.